Frequently Asked questions

You can activate the Accountability Partner feature and invite an AP within the Commitment tab. You can also find your new accountability partner in our in-app community. Learn more about effective accountability in the course, The Porn Addict’s Path To Freedom, module one, lesson eleven, Develop Accountability.

Yes! We recently introduced Panic mode to the iOS app under the name of Urge manager. The feature will disconnect your phone from the internet for a selected amount of time. (10 minutes - 120 minutes).

Using another VPN interferes with our blocker. We can't do anything with that on iOS (Apple does not allow us to do so).

Within the app, tap on the Settings menu in the upper left, then select "Support." You can find answers and help there.

Much like many other highly stimulating substances and behaviors, porn can be a casual habit for some and a crippling addiction for others—with many people in between those two extremes. Chronic porn use can have many psychological, sexual, and relational impacts in our lives, and many find great benefit to living pornfree. If you suspect that your porn use is hurting you, then there’s no reason not to at least try to live without porn for 30 days and see what happens. And if you find that you can’t do that, then you almost certainly need Remojo.
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Get started learning more in the Foundations and the Your Brain On Porn courses and make your own informed decision.

Single men have survived for millions of years without Internet porn. You will too. You can learn to better channel that energy into your social and dating life. See the courses Building An Amazing Pornfree Life and Balls of Steel.
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Pornfree masturbation to realistic fantasy is also an option. Learn more in Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction, module one, lesson five, Pornfree masturbation: How, why, and when (if at all).

Sexual dysfunction caused by porn and masturbation habits is becoming increasingly common, but porn use is not the only cause for these dysfunctions, even in young and apparently healthy men. If you can maintain an erection for a screen but not for a real partner, then it is very likely that your erectile dysfunction is porn-induced. However, there can be psychological and physical factors at play as well, and even if you can no longer maintain an erection with porn, it’s possible that it’s just severe PIED and nothing physically wrong with the penis, blood vessels, or hormones.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module one lesson two, Is your erectile dysfunction porn-induced?

There is a large variation in recovery time between individuals healing from PISD. Some guys will notice big changes within a week or two. Others, even if they do everything right, might need more than a year or even two years to see the same. However, if you follow the guidelines in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, the majority of men will see very significant progress within 90 days and full recovery within a year.
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Learn more about this in module one lesson three of that same course, How long does recovery take?

Having successful intercourse or other sexual play is of course the most accurate measure of recovery, but you can also look for signs like more frequent morning wood/random erections, experiencing physical arousal when cuddling and kissing, and increased qualitative attraction to real people in your life. You can also choose to trying masturbating without any visual stimulus or even fantasy at all—just enjoying the physical sensations. This may sound impossible to many longtime porn users, but it should be relatively easy once you’re fully recovered. If you can do this, then there’s no physical reason that you wouldn’t be capable of sex as well. If you cannot do this, try it again monthly to gauge your physical recovery.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module one lesson five, Pornfree masturbation: How, why, and when (if at all).

This is called “edging” and is not advantageous for anyone with porn-related problems. Some users edge to prolong the stimulation of watching porn. Others do it while trying to recover from PISD, thinking that as long as they don’t climax, it doesn’t count. This is not true. And because edging can last much longer than masturbating regularly, it can actually result in more damage.

The good news specifically for porn-induced desires is that once these people leave porn behind for good (and the related fantasies), these acquired sexual tastes eventually tend to fade into the background or sometimes disappear entirely, allowing one's more vanilla original interests to resurface.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module four lesson one, Disturbed by porn-induced fetishes?

Having a partner who understands about PISD and/or compulsive porn use and wants to be patient and supportive as you recover is a huge advantage in this journey. And if you approach this conversation in a well-thought-out way, your chances of a positive response are very high. Most people are very grateful for this level of honesty and vulnerability, and this conversation can help bring you closer together than ever.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module two lesson two, How to tell her about your PISD.

It’s unnecessary but can be beneficial when properly done.

Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module three lesson seven, Penis exercises (Kegels).

We almost always recommend against their use during PISD recovery, because they do not address the source of the problem--only a symptom. Some men find that the medications do help to get/maintain an erection, whereas others with severe PIED will not benefit from them at all.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module three lesson six, Should you use pills?

This is up to you. Masturbation is something that people have done for all of human history, and largely without the kinds of problems that chronic Internet porn use creates. However, there are nuances to keep in mind depending on whether you’re recovering from a PISD, addicted to porn, can’t masturbate without fantasies about porn, etc.
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Learn more in Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction, module one, lesson five, Pornfree masturbation: How, why, and when (if at all).

According to studies such as “The Relative Health Benefits of Different Sexual Activities,” frequent penile-vaginal intercourse is associated with a variety of benefits, such as longer life expectancy, lower instance of depression, lower stress level, better blood pressure values, improved testosterone levels, and more. Most other forms of sexual conduct have generally neutral correlations, while frequent masturbation tends to be correlated with worse outcomes on many of these values. As far as physical health, there have not been any health consequences shown to be correlated with abstinence.
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If you’re in a flatline and are afraid that you’ll never get your sex drive back, know that flatlines are temporary. You will not lose your libido permanently because of periods of abstinence.

You cannot stop birds from flying over your head, but you don’t have to invite them to nest in your hair. In other words, thoughts and images can appear in your mind harmlessly, and as long as you don’t engage with them and invite them to stay, they’ll pop right out again in due time.
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Learn more in the course, Mindfulness and Meditation.

Sexting with your partner or mutual masturbation over video chat is a gray area in recovery. If possible, we recommend at least getting to the point where you’re able to have consistent satisfying sex in person before opening this door and exploring this option, but some people in long-distance relationships want to do this prior to full recovery, which is their choice. It’s not the “same” as porn use, but you should be very mindful of how it affects you. If you start to notice increased cravings for porn or a loss of some of the benefits of recovery, you should probably stop at least for now.

Addiction, at its core, is about the loss of control over a compulsive behavior that is creating harm in your life. An app cannot diagnose you with addiction, but you can take a quiz in The Porn Addict’s Path to Freedom that will give you a good idea of whether you’re addicted to porn. Module one, lesson two, The addiction test.

The brain over time becomes accustomed to the neurochemical releases that come with chronic compulsive behaviors like porn use. When you stop those behaviors, the brain isn’t getting the dose of stimulation that it is used to, which can result in emotional and physical withdrawal symptoms.
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Learn more about this in the Your Brain On Porn course, specifically module three lesson two, Withdrawals and warnings.

Ups and downs in mood, libido, and withdrawal symptoms are very common in the first few months of living pornfree. Feeling worse momentarily doesn’t mean you did anything wrong and doesn’t mean that you’re better off using porn. In the long run, you are likely to see many benefits of living pornfree.
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Learn more about this in the Your Brain On Porn course, specifically module three lesson two, Withdrawals and warnings, and lesson three, The unexpected gifts of living pornfree.

Continue reading for all of the benefits of watching porn.

Chronic porn use can slowly create many problems in one’s health over years, including sexual dysfunction, depression, anxiety, brain fog, lack of motivation, low energy, and more. When you quit using porn, many of these symptoms can start to reverse. What you learn and experience in the process of quitting porn can also create a cascade effect, resulting in you making better decisions for your health, social life, career, etc. But quitting porn is not a cure-all. People still had problems before Internet porn existed, and you’ll still have problems when you’re pornfree. Wouldn’t you like to find out how much better your life can be without porn, however?

Chronic porn use can slowly create many problems in one’s health over years, including sexual dysfunction, depression, anxiety, brain fog, lack of motivation, low energy, and more. When you quit using porn, many of these symptoms can start to reverse. That return to normalcy can feel, by comparison, super. The confidence, charisma, focus, and energy that many men experience are commonly called “superpowers.” But whether you call them superpowers or simply your new normal, don’t just sit around waiting for your life to get better once you put a stop to your porn habits. Learn more in the course, Building An Amazing Pornfree Life.

Many men will wonder where the line is that separates a healthy and an unhealthy amount of porn use. Is two times a week OK? Once per day? Or is it better broken down into minutes per week?
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The real answer is that it’s not about how much time or how often. It’s about whether your behavior is harming you or not. Just like with other substances and behaviors, two people may each spend five hours per week gambling, but for one it’s fun and entertainment, while for the other it’s compulsive and harming their financial stability and relationships.
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Since you’re here on Remojo, you probably already know that your porn use is harming you. Get started learning more in the Foundations course.

Put a male rat together with a receptive female and at first we will see a frenzy of copulation as the male rat is very enthusiastic about fertilizing this female. After awhile, though, the male tires of female number one, and even if she wants more, he's had enough. Evolutionarily, why waste the energy trying to fertilize a female when that job is already done?
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However, replace her with a different female and suddenly he's into it again, gallantly struggling to fertilize her as well. You can repeat this process over and over again with new females until the male is completely exhausted. Similarly, a ram needs more and more time to ejaculate with the same ewe with each sexual encounter as he gradually gets worn out and less excited by the same stimuli. Introduce new females, however, and he can once again get the job done in under two minutes and keep on going as long as the ladies are present and receptive.
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What is happening is that the rat and the ram are getting lower and lower releases of dopamine with each sexual encounter with the same female, but we see a spike when they are introduced to a new female. This ancient sexual programming promotes genetic diversity helps ensure that no suitable female goes unfertilized.The Coolidge Effect is common in mammals, and Internet porn with its endless variety and novelty of partner exploits this biological mechanism very effectively.

Chronic porn use can create a variety of symptoms, many of them unexpected. The best way to tell if your symptom is porn-induced is to stop using porn for a significant amount of time—at least 90 days—to determine if your symptom improves. Learn more in the Your Brain On Porn course.

Desensitization affects many porn-using men, even those who haven’t developed full-on porn-induced sexual dysfunction. Most men report that their passion and libido with their partners improves once they have stopped using pornography for a significant length of time.
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Learn more in the course, Relationships, Sex, Orgasm.

Occurrence of "nocturnal emissions" or wet dreams (ejaculating while asleep) can increase when abstaining from other sexual activity. The dreamer usually experiences a sexual dream and wakes up to find he is ejaculating or has already ejaculated. Even those who have never had a nocturnal emission in their lives may begin to experience them during this journey. Emissions are not considered to be a setback or relapse, though some men experience a reduction in libido and energy after these events. Accidental ejaculation can happen during waking hours as well, although this is more rare.

Many chronic porn users—especially those who masturbate with rough stimulation, without lubrication, or prone—lose sexual sensitivity and have a difficult time enjoying penetrative sex and reaching orgasm during intercourse. Quitting porn use and reducing or changing masturbation habits, giving yourself time (at least several months), and practicing gentler sexual touch with a partner has excellent potential for returning sensitivity.
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Learn more in Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction, module three, lesson one, Delayed ejaculation.

re-lapse
intr.v. re·lapsed, re·laps·ing, re·laps·es
To fall or slide back into a former state.
To regress after partial recovery from illness.
To slip back into bad ways; backslide.
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This definition leaves room for interpretation depending on your personal background, goals, and boundaries. Pornfree masturbation might be a relapse for some people and a healthy part of life for others. The same can be said for casual sex. For most of us, a relapse means using erotic material to edge or masturbate with. But only you can decide where your healthy boundaries lie and what would constitute a relapse or reset streak event.
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We also use the term “slip” to indicate behavior that is borderline. This could include things like getting triggered on social media and absentmindedly browsing through erotic images for a few minutes before catching yourself and shutting it down. Again, where the line sits here between a slip and relapse will depend on your discretion. Ultimately, though, it is all counterproductive to your goals.
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Does a single mistake mean that you have lost all of your progress? It’s not a black-and-white, all-or-nothing equation. But at a simplified level, the more you relapse the harder you make this recovery for yourself. Every time you feed that compulsion, you’re only cursing yourself with longer, more intense cravings in the future.
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Tap the flame icon in the Remojo app to access Urge Management techniques that will help you stay on your chosen course.

Some of the sexual material that users can escalate to causes them to doubt their sexual orientation. This can happen to a gay man, for example, who has always felt certain about his sexual orientation but watch gay porn so frequently that it became boring for him and no longer aroused him. He began watching lesbian pornography for the novelty of it, soon becoming able only to be aroused by this type of pornography. He began to doubt his homosexual orientation, which he had always been so sure of.
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Most cases we see, however, have been heterosexual men who began to think they were gay or bisexual because of the content they escalated to—either homosexual or transsexual (male-to-female) imagery. Some people do discover their sexual orientation through pornography viewing, and maybe you are not heterosexual. But if you have always felt sure of your sexual orientation and for years have been fantasizing about sex with women, only developing fantasies about other genders after years of chronic porn use and escalation, then it’s more likely that these alternative attractions are conditioned by porn and will likely fade in the recovery process.
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If you thought yourself heterosexual and are now considering experimenting with men or trans people, we recommend waiting to make that decision until you have sufficiently healed from the effects of porn use to be in better touch with your real, innate desires.
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Learn more in Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction, module four, lesson one, Disturbed by porn-induced fetishes?

If it was as easy as just making a decision and then not watching porn, there would be no need for Remojo. You’re not alone in struggling to succeed with this challenge. In order to get results you’ve never before achieved, one thing is certain: You must do things that you never have done before.
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So don’t just tell yourself that things will be different next time. Take the courses in the Mindset tab, namely Foundations and Building An Amazing Pornfree Life. If you’re still struggling after that, take The Porn Addict’s Path to Freedom course.

According to the American Society of Addiction Medicine's definition of addiction: "Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry. Addiction is characterized by inability to consistently abstain, impairment in behavioral control, craving, diminished recognition of significant problems with one's behaviors and interpersonal relationships, and a dysfunctional emotional response. Like other chronic diseases, addiction often involves cycles of relapse and remission."
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Simply put, addiction is about the chronic loss of control of your behavior concerning a substance or activity that is harming you. If you know something is hurting you and want to stop but keep breaking those promises to yourself, then you should learn more in the course, The Porn Addict’s Path to Freedom.

Multiple relapses in a matter of days or weeks would constitute a binge. Whereas a single relapse doesn’t erase all of your progress, a severe binge will do a lot more to set you back to the starting line. But no matter how severe the binge, you never lose the knowledge that you’ve gained. Use it to make things different next time.
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Learn more in the course, The Porn Addict’s Path to Freedom.

A symptom of chronic porn use and/or withdrawal. A general lack of focus, mental acuity, and motivation.
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Learn more about this in the Your Brain On Porn course, specifically module three lesson two, Withdrawals and warnings.

The phenomenon of increased sexual urges in the days following the first orgasm in awhile. The chaser effect can present an increased danger of binging after a relapse or an increased risk of relapse in the days after having sex.

A term to describe forceful, unlubricated masturbation habits that result in physical desensitization and difficulty enjoying the subtler sensations of intercourse.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module three lesson one, Delayed ejaculation, and module one lesson five, Pornfree masturbation: How, why, and when (if at all).

A “neurochemical” responsible for various functions in the brain. The release of dopamine is associated with the feelings of desire and motivation. When we see a slice of delicious cake, that triggers a release of dopamine in the brain, which motivates us to eat the cake. All addiction involves chronic high releases of dopamine while using or seeking to use.

A form of reboot that allows for the enjoyment of sexual play with a partner and/or pornfree masturbation.

Sexually stimulating yourself while intentionally delaying or avoiding orgasm. Some users edge to prolong the stimulation of watching porn. Others do it while trying to recover from PISD, thinking that as long as they don’t climax, it doesn’t count. This is not true, and because edging can last much longer masturbating regularly, it can actually result in more damage.

A temporary period of time distinguished by a complete lack of libido and potentially other symptoms as well, such as numb or shrunken genitalia, depression, low energy levels, and more. Most rebooters experience at least one flatline, which generally lasts between two weeks and two months, though can linger for longer.
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Learn more about this in the Your Brain On Porn course, specifically module three lesson two, Withdrawals and warnings.

Hungry. Angry. Lonely. Tired. Bored. Stressed.
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An acronym that helps to remind us that often urges stem from seemingly mundane discomforts or needs. If you address those needs, the urge often dissipates.
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Learn more in the Eliminate the Urge lesson in the Urge Manager (the flame icon in the upper right of your Remojo app).

A form of reboot that allows for no sexual stimulation, including sexual play with a partner.

Homosexual obsessive-compulsive disorder or sexual orientation obsessive-compulsive disorder. A form of OCD in which one is plagued by irrational and anxious fear about their sexual orientation being different than what they identify as. This can develop in porn users who have escalated to types of porn at odds with their orientation. In addition to ceasing porn use, the help of a therapist specializing in OCD is advised.

A mode of sexual and intimate connection where both partners intentionally refrain from orgasm for the purposes of relationship harmony, more frequent sex, greater energy levels, and avoiding unwanted aftereffects from climax.
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Learn more in the course, Karezza: Enlightened Lovemaking.

An exercise of the PC muscle, the same muscle used when stopping the flow of urine. These exercises have been shown to improve erectile function.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module three lesson seven, Penis exercises (Kegels).

The ability to be aware of your own thoughts and emotions, observing them with a sense of detachment and curiosity. People practice the skill of mindfulness in order to build willpower, better control their emotions, avoid acting out impulsively, improve productivity and effectiveness, and cultivate a sense of inner peace.
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Learn more in the Mindfulness and Meditation course.

Anxiety, fear, dread, or other negative emotions that one now associates with sex, and that can get in the way of relaxing, enjoying oneself, and getting aroused for sex. Many men with PISD develop PA because of the embarrassing moments sexual encounters have become.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module two lesson three, Overcoming sexual performance anxiety.

Post-acute withdrawal syndrome is an extended period of withdrawal symptoms that recurs periodically. It can last months or even years after the initial withdrawal process is complete. PAWS has long been seen in recovery from substance addictions, but some people who quit porn describe a similar lingering (but ultimately temporary) phenomenon.

Porn-induced delayed ejaculation. The difficulty reaching climax during sex with a partner, caused by chronic pornography use and certain masturbation habits—especially edging, prone masturbation, and “death grip.”
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module three lesson one, Delayed ejaculation.

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction. The inability to achieve or maintain an erection with a partner, caused by chronic pornography use.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course.

Porn-induced premature ejaculation. The difficulty delaying climax long enough to have a full and satisfying sexual experience, caused in part by chronic pornography use and certain masturbation habits—especially rushing to orgasm or masturbating without a full erection.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module three lesson two, Premature ejaculation.

Porn-induced sexual dysfunction, an umbrella term that includes erectile dysfunction (PIED), delayed ejaculation (PIDE), and premature ejaculation (PIPE).
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course.

Porn, masturbation, orgasm. This is a term commonly used on recovery forums, but its meaning is unclear. Some people use it to mean all of these things together, while others would say doing any one of them (masturbating without porn, for example) would count as PMO. Because of this lack of clarity, Remojo doesn’t use the term.

Any material (visual, auditory, written, etc.) that society would not label “porn” but that you are using in the same or a similar way. Many users rationalize that it doesn’t count if it’s not really porn, but using substitutes like this will hold you back from rebooting or rewiring.

A time of sexual abstinence (at least from pornography but often also from masturbation and sex) undertaken in order to heal and resensitize oneself after years of chronic porn use.
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Start with the Foundations course to learn more.

One who is actively healing from a PISD or porn addiction.
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Start with the Foundations course to learn more.

For most on Remojo, a relapse means masturbating or edging to porn. More generally, a relapse is a return to former unwanted and compulsive or addictive behavior. A single relapse will reinforce conditioning to porn and delay recovery from PISD, but it does not necessarily erase all of your progress.
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To learn how to prevent relapses, listen to the course, Building an Amazing Pornfree Life.
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If you have relapsed, reset your streak in the Remojo app and you will be guided through learning from what happened and making sure you don’t make the same mistakes again.

The process of conditioning oneself to desire real people, real intimacy, and real sex instead of images on a screen.
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Learn more about this in the Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction course, specifically module two lesson one, Rewiring your pornified brain.

Engaging with addictive behaviors but to a limited or small degree that one might not feel constitutes a full relapse. Being triggered by an image on social media and searching for similar images for a couple of minutes before stopping yourself would be an example of a slip. Slips are moments to learn from in order to prevent them from increasing in frequency and intensity until you are relapsing or binging.

A day count of how long one has been pornfree. Building an initial streak of 7, 30, and/or 90 days can be a great way to start your journey with some concrete goals and measurements, but when you’re ready to really make a long-term choice to live pornfree, your focus should move away from just building streaks and toward building the next chapter of your life.
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Learn more in the course, Building an Amazing Pornfree Life.

A cue that incites or “triggers” an urge. Triggers can be situational (being home alone with the computer), emotional (feeling lonely), blatant (accidentally seeing an arousing image), or anything else that leads to urges.
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Learn more about how to understand and prevent your triggers in the course, Building an Amazing Pornfree Life.

A craving to use porn, porn substitutes, porn-inspired fantasy, or other sexual behaviors that you have decided should be off limits for yourself.
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Learn more about how to control your urges with the Urge Manager (the flame icon in the upper right of your Remojo app) or the course Building an Amazing Pornfree Life.

The brain over time becomes accustomed to the neurochemical releases that come with chronic compulsive behaviors like porn use. When you stop those behaviors, the brain isn’t getting the dose of stimulation that it is used to, which can result in emotional and physical withdrawal symptoms.
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Learn more about this in the Your Brain On Porn course, specifically module three lesson two, Withdrawals and warnings.